SWM 135 – It’s good to try new things

SWM 135 – It’s good to try new things

Author: Jay Dee - Marriage Educator July 20, 2024 Duration: 16:43

SWM 135 - It's good to try new things. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

Most kids, when growing up, enter a picky stage at some point.  Some when they’re toddlers, some when they’re young children, some when they become teenagers.  When our 3rd or 4th kid entered this phase, everyone knew the response when they didn’t want to eat something new that we’d made.  “It’s good to try new things.”  They didn’t have to eat it all but had to try it—a decent try, not a touch to the tongue followed by an exaggerated exclamation of disgust.

Teaching children to at least give something new a fair shot, I think, has applications later on in life as well. I often talk to husbands and wives whose spouses simply will not try anything new in the bedroom. One will bring up an idea, and it’s immediately shot down by the “picky” spouse—the one who is perfectly happy with the flavour of vanilla every night.

Today, I want to talk about why I think it’s good to try new things - not only when it comes to food, but also in the bedroom - or outside of the bedroom, depending on how much privacy you have.  We’re going to talk about the interplay between dopamine, controlled risk-taking, adventure and trust in marriages as it pertains to sex and more.

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Marriage brings together two whole people, each with their own history, beliefs, and questions, especially when it comes to physical intimacy. Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective is a space where those often unspoken questions find thoughtful, practical answers. Hosted by Jay Dee, a Marriage Educator, these conversations move beyond simplistic advice to explore the real, sometimes messy, intersection of faith, love, and physical connection. You’ll hear discussions that treat sexuality as a integral part of a holistic marriage, touching on spiritual, emotional, and even physical health. This podcast acknowledges the unique challenges and profound beauty of building a sexually fulfilling life within a committed, covenantal relationship. It’s not about quick fixes, but about fostering deeper understanding and connection. Episodes delve into topics ranging from communication and desire to navigating differences and healing, all through a lens that values both biblical wisdom and compassionate realism. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this resource offers a grounded, hopeful perspective for couples seeking to nurture this vital aspect of their life together. Tune in for honest dialogue that aims to strengthen marriages from the inside out.
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