3 Tools for Dealing With Anger

3 Tools for Dealing With Anger

Author: Tara Simkins March 25, 2026 Duration: 38:53

🎙️ Welcome back to Part 2 of our series on Anger on the Soul-u-tions Podcast!

Anger is a powerful, completely normal emotion—and it's actually a great tool to help us set boundaries. But just like the food we eat, our anger needs to be properly metabolized so it doesn't build up and turn into explosive rage or deep resentment.

In this episode, we are getting entirely practical. If you've ever found yourself ruminating over a conflict or stuck at a "10" on the anger scale, this episode is for you. I'm walking you through 3 actionable tools to help you process your anger and bring yourself back to a healthy, balanced state.

In this episode, you'll discover:

  • Why we need to "metabolize" our emotions, and why aiming for a "0" on the anger scale isn't actually healthy.
  • Tool #1: The Meta Prayer (Loving Kindness). A beautifully structured practice to build momentum in extending grace—starting with yourself, and eventually reaching the person who challenged you.
  • Tool #2: The 25-5-3 Tool. A powerful exercise to shift you out of problem-level thinking and into solution-level thinking by identifying what did work in a conflict, what didn't, and what you'd do differently next time.
  • Tool #3: The "Judge Your Neighbor" Worksheet. A highly effective way to get your mental trash out on paper (so you can throw it away!) using a brilliant framework from Byron Katie.

👇 Join the Conversation! Do you have a friend who is struggling with resentment right now—or maybe a friend who is tired of hearing you vent about the same situation? Be sure to share this episode with them!

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đź”— Resources & Links Mentioned:

  • Tool #1 Link: Email me directly at tara@tarasimkins.com and I'll send you the link to the Meta Prayer podcast/workshop.
  • Tool #2 Link: Learn more about the 25-5-3 tool by taking my free masterclass at TaraSimkins.com.
  • Tool #3 Link: Download Byron Katie's "Judge Your Neighbor" worksheet at thework.com.



Tara Simkins hosts Soul-u-tions, a space where practical spirituality meets the messy reality of daily life. Having left a high-pressure career as a corporate lawyer for some of America's biggest firms, Tara brings a unique perspective to problem-solving. A profound family incident shifted her path toward life coaching, and she now focuses on how we often approach our challenges from angles that only deepen stress and a sense of being stuck. Each episode feels like a thoughtful conversation, exploring mindful frameworks and creative shifts in perception that can lead to healthier outcomes. This isn't about quick fixes, but rather cultivating a resilient inner foundation. You'll hear Tara's grounded guidance, drawn from both her professional transition and personal journey, offering tangible ways to reframe difficulties. The Soul-u-tions podcast operates within the realms of religion and spirituality, yet remains deeply accessible, emphasizing actionable insight over abstract theory. It’s for anyone feeling overwhelmed, seeking to replace hopelessness with a more empowered and thoughtful way forward. Tune in for a genuine dialogue that honors life's complexities while pointing toward sustainable peace and clarity.
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