I'm tackling one of the most avoided conversations in long-term relationships: how to actually bring up sex with your partner. In this episode, I break down why this conversation feels so impossible — the shame, the missing communication skills, the fear of rejection — and I hand you exact scripts to use instead of the accusatory lines that shut your partner down before you even start. I walk through how to open "the conversation about the conversation," deeper questions to ask once you're talking, and what to do if you get shut down. Couples with better sex lives have better, longer-lasting relationships, and this episode gives you the words to get there.
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In This Episode:
0:00 – The Words to Use
0:14 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth
0:40 – The Slow Fade: When You Stop Noticing Each Other
1:15 – Reframing It: This Isn't Really About Sex
1:45 – Why the Conversation Is So Hard
2:20 – The Lines That Put Your Partner on the Defensive
2:55 – Language Shifts: What to Say Instead
3:45 – The 3 Rules: Curiosity, "I" Statements, Tone
4:15 – Subscribe + Grab the Pleasure Playbook
4:35 – Starting "The Conversation About the Conversation"
5:30 – Going Deeper: Questions to Reconnect
6:05 – If You Get Shut Down (And When to Get Help)
6:25 – Final Thought: Better Sex, Better Relationships
To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!
About The Host:
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com
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