Ash on Queer Birth Justice, Pregnancy & Palestine

Ash on Queer Birth Justice, Pregnancy & Palestine

Author: Jaimie Kelton – Queer Parenting & LGBTQ Families'. November 24, 2025 Duration: 56:14

Midwife, parent, nurse, educator, and proud Palestinian Ash joins Jaimie for a powerful, expansive conversation that connects queer birth work, liberation, bodily autonomy, and the politics of modern healthcare. From becoming a parent before coming into their trans identity, to the crisis inside U.S. obstetrics, to creating community-centered birth education for queer & trans families, Ash brings depth, clarity, and truth. The episode also touches on Ash’s ties to Palestine, why so many people are re-examining the narrative they were taught, and how to learn, help, and show up with intention.

🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

  • Birth is not inherently dangerous — but our systems are flawed.
  • Rising U.S. gestational mortality rates are tied to financial incentives, outdated policies, and cultural fear.
  • Where you feel safest is where you birth best.
  • Stress pathways interrupt labor; safety & comfort matter more than location.
  • Queer & trans people need trauma-informed preparation.
  • Education + community before labor creates resilience when navigating misgendering or assumptions in hospitals.
  • Intentional parenting is a queer superpower.
  • Living outside the norms forces us to question, rebuild, and parent with intention.
  • Liberation is interconnected.
  • Ash links birth work to Palestinian liberation, colonial separation, and reclaiming humanity.
  • Learning about Palestine doesn’t have to be overwhelming.
  • Start with Palestinian voices. Complexity is often used to keep people disengaged.


🏳️‍🌈 About the Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈

  • Ash (they/them) is a Trans Palestinian educator, speaker & midwife whose work centers birth justice and community care. They teach accessible, queer- and trans-inclusive childbirth classes through Embodied Birth Class and speak widely about physiologic birth, medical racism, and creating safer, more liberated birth experiences for all families.


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🏳️‍🌈 Resources Mentioned

  • Ash’s Website: www.embodiedbirthclass.com • Join their mailing list for upcoming classes and events.
  • Ash’s Instagram • @embodied.birth • @queertabletops
  • The Hundred Years’ War on Palestine — Rashid Khalidi
  • Palestine: A Four Thousand Year History — Nur Masalha
  • Works by historian Ilan Pappé


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