Pregnancy Is So Butch: Queer Parenthood, Identity & Letting Go

Pregnancy Is So Butch: Queer Parenthood, Identity & Letting Go

Author: Jaimie Kelton – Queer Parenting & LGBTQ Families'. September 14, 2026 Duration: 47:21

Meghan and Erika never imagined parenthood would be part of their story. Growing up without examples of queer families—and navigating neurodivergence and fears about losing themselves in parenthood—they weren't even sure they wanted children.

Then listening to this podcast helped Meghan realize there might be another possibility.

Now they're raising their three-year-old son, Nova, with another baby on the way. They share a fertility journey that included IUIs, miscarriage, IVF, and an unexpected final vial from their dibling community.

Erika also opens up about navigating pregnancy as a butch woman—and discovering that carrying a baby didn't make her feel less connected to her identity. Quite the opposite.

As Erika puts it: “I think pregnancy is so butch.”


🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

  • You don’t have to have always dreamed of parenthood to become a deeply intentional parent.
  • Queer family building often means staying open when the path looks nothing like the one you planned.
  • Parenthood can crack you open—and give you the chance to break old cycles.
  • Pregnancy doesn’t have to be inherently feminine. Erika found it could actually deepen her connection to her butch identity.
  • Fertility loss can bring grief, compassion, and a new understanding of just how complex these journeys can be.
  • Representation matters. Sometimes seeing another queer family is what makes imagining your own possible.


🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)

Meghan and Erika are a queer couple and parents to three-year-old Nova, with their second child on the way. Erika, a proud butch woman, is currently pregnant with their second child and hopes that sharing her experience can offer representation for other butch people considering pregnancy.

🏳️‍🌈 Resources Mentioned

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Every family has a story, but the paths taken by LGBTQIA+ parents are often uniquely creative, filled with both profound joy and specific hurdles. The Queer Family Podcast-LGBTQ Families & Queer Parenting Stories is a weekly space where those narratives take center stage. Host Jaimie Kelton, a queer mom herself, guides conversations that are as laugh-out-loud funny as they are deeply moving. Each episode features candid interviews with a diverse range of guests, all sharing the intimate details of how they built their families-from adoption and fostering to IVF, surrogacy, and co-parenting. You’ll hear how these families navigate school systems, healthcare, and everyday social situations, tackling challenges with resilience and humor. This podcast digs into the real stuff of queer family life, covering topics across parenting, health, fitness, and sexuality, all through an authentic LGBTQ lens. The goal isn’t just to share stories; it’s to normalize and celebrate the beautiful spectrum of ways to create a home. Tune in for a sense of community, practical insights, and a powerful reminder that family is about love, in all its forms.
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