Raising Donor-Conceived Kids With Honesty and Pride

Raising Donor-Conceived Kids With Honesty and Pride

Author: Jaimie Kelton – Queer Parenting & LGBTQ Families'. June 15, 2026 Duration: 36:58

In Part 2 of the conversation with donor conception expert, author, therapist, and podcaster Lisa Schuman, Jaimie flips the roles and asks the questions, diving deep into donor conception, queer family building, and the emotional realities of parenting in donor-conceived families.

Drawing from decades of experience in reproductive medicine, Lisa shares what research reveals about communication openness, why honesty with donor-conceived children matters so deeply, and how LGBTQ+ families have helped shape the conversation around intentional parenting.

The conversation explores internalized homophobia, non-biological parenting, genetics, identity, and the fears many queer parents quietly carry. It is an affirming and thoughtful discussion about trust, openness, and the many valid ways families are created.

🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

  • Why communication openness matters more than donor openness
  • The importance of talking to donor-conceived children early and often
  • How queer families helped shape donor conception research
  • Internalized homophobia and the pressure queer parents put on themselves
  • Why there is no “right” way to build a family
  • The emotional differences between queer and non-queer family building journeys
  • How intentionality impacts LGBTQ+ parenting
  • Why honesty builds trust in donor-conceived families

🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)

Lisa Schuman is a therapist, author, adoption and donor conception expert, and the founder of the Center for Family Building. She is the co-author of Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception and host of the podcast Building Your Family with Lisa Schuman. Lisa has spent decades helping individuals and couples navigate infertility, donor conception, adoption, and the emotional complexities of family building.


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