#307: Interview with Laura Carlin: Part One - Decluttering with Love and Intention

#307: Interview with Laura Carlin: Part One - Decluttering with Love and Intention

Author: Kim John Payne/Center for Social Sustainability April 1, 2026 Duration: 14:10

In this episode, Kim John Payne welcomes longtime colleague and Simplicity Parenting coach Laura Carlin for the first of a four-part conversation on decluttering. Laura introduces what she calls "the decluttering secret": that how we go about decluttering (our energy, intentions, and self-talk) can be as important as what we choose to keep or let go of. She emphasizes that outer decluttering must be accompanied by inner work, shifting from fear and judgment toward curiosity and appreciation.

Laura outlines four practices for creating and maintaining a clutter-free home: decluttering (choosing what to keep and release), organizing (designating where things belong), maintaining (developing the habit of putting things back), and preventing (stopping clutter from accumulating in the first place). She encourages parents to begin by clearing inner clutter, writing down all the thoughts occupying mental space, so they can approach the process from a place of clarity rather than overwhelm. Kim notes that younger children especially absorb a parent's inner state through their mirror neurons, making a peaceful approach to decluttering beneficial for the whole family. Laura also touches on common challenges like sentimental items, unwanted gifts, and navigating differences with a partner who prefers to keep more.

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Kim John Payne, author of the bestselling book "Simplicity Parenting," brings his decades of experience as a family counselor and educator directly to you in The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne. Each episode feels like a thoughtful conversation, moving beyond quick tips to explore the deeper rhythms of family life. You’ll hear practical wisdom on reducing the clutter-not just of toys, but of schedules, expectations, and digital noise-that so often overwhelms modern childhood. This podcast delves into how creating a calmer, more predictable home environment can strengthen your child's resilience, focus, and sense of security. Payne addresses real questions from parents, offering grounded strategies for everything from sibling rivalry and screen time to fostering authentic play and emotional well-being. The discussions are rooted in the understanding that simplifying isn't about deprivation, but about making space for connection and growth. Tune in for a supportive, nuanced exploration of parenting that honors the unique spirit of your family. Each weekly episode serves as a gentle reminder that the most meaningful moments often arise from a less hurried, more intentional approach to life together.
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