#56: Emotions Explained: Shame

#56: Emotions Explained: Shame

Author: Bay Area DBT & Couples Counseling Center June 8, 2023 Duration: 30:16

Shame is one of the most painful emotions we can experience. 

 

This episode explores what shame is, when the emotion is useful (and when it's not), and skills to help you cope when shame threatens to overwhelm you.

 

Shame is a social emotion that motivates us to repair transgressions that might result in us being excluded from a group we want (or need) to belong to. Many of us, though, experience a lot of unjustified shame, where we assume we will be rejected if parts of ourselves are revealed.

 

DBT Skills Discussed

 

Check the Facts

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