Episode 150: Is the Lifestyle Addictive?

Episode 150: Is the Lifestyle Addictive?

Author: Mr & Mrs Jones's Swinging Adventures March 5, 2026 Duration: 1:12:41

Can the lifestyle become an addiction? Well, it can if we don't recognize what's going on in our brains. In this episode with Catherine from Expansive Connection, we break down the key components at play including New Relationship Energy (NRE), Novelty, Desensation, the 'Pleasure Paradox' and how all of this shows up in our relationships. Of course we also discuss ways to recognize and respond when armed with this new knowledge!

Discussed in this episode: 

Expansive Connection Coaching

The Hidden Brain Podcast: The Paradox of Pleasure

The Hidden Brain Podcast: The Path to Enough

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Ever wondered how a shared adventure might change the view from your own front porch? That’s the space explored in We Gotta Thing-A Swinger Podcast, hosted by a couple who’ve been married for years. As Mr. and Mrs. Jones, they’re not here with a rulebook or a checklist. Instead, each episode unfolds from their own ongoing journey, focusing on how the swinging lifestyle has become a surprising tool for connection and self-discovery within their long-term partnership. You’ll hear their candid reflections on the conversations that happen before, during, and after, tackling everything from navigating jealousy and setting boundaries to the unexpected ways this path has influenced their fitness goals and overall well-being. This podcast is less about instructions and more about exploration-a series of "what if" discussions designed to spark genuine dialogue between partners. It’s for those who are curious, those who are just starting, and those already within the lifestyle who recognize the value of shared stories. By weaving together topics of relationships, sexuality, and personal health with broader cultural perceptions, they offer a grounded, personal narrative. Tune in for honest talk that demystifies and humanizes, helping you and your partner consider where, or if, you might find your own place in such a lifestyle.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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