33. Navigating Consent and Sexual Boundaries

33. Navigating Consent and Sexual Boundaries

Author: Sara Tang, Sexologist & Coach April 16, 2021 Duration: 59:38

What does consent look like, and how do you make it sexy?

 

In this episode, Sara invites sex-positive friends Jessica and Prescott Gaylord to talk about their personal experiences on consent.

 

Prescott is an improv actor and instructor who facilitates consent workshops. And on the show, he gives us practical techniques and exercises on how to establish better consent and boundaries.

 

We talk about our definitions of consent and how our personal feelings towards this concept have evolved over time. Particularly with the #metoo movement bringing this discussion to the forefront.   

 

One key consent technique we discuss on the show is shifting our feelings around the word "no". Often a "no" is construed as a rejection, and followed by frustration or disappointment.

 

However, by learning to celebrate "no", it gives us an opportunity to be more aware of someone's boundaries and accept this as a positive thing. This concept may take a little time to get used to but it's definitely something worth thinking about.

 

We also demonstrate how a simple question like, "how do you like to be ____?" can make asking for consent really hot and sexy.

 

This empowering episode will help you to feel more confident about asking for consent and expressing your own boundaries without shame or guilt.

 

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Ever wondered what happens when you take the awkwardness out of talking about sex and replace it with genuine curiosity and a bit of humor? That’s the space Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast with Sarasense occupies each week. Hosted by sexologist and coach Sara Tang, these conversations feel more like insightful chats with a knowledgeable friend than a clinical lecture. The podcast moves freely across topics tied to health, culture, and our personal relationships, reflecting the many ways sexuality touches our lives. You’ll hear honest discussions that demystify desires, tackle societal taboos, and explore the practical aspects of intimacy, all with a refreshingly light touch. It’s not about prescribing one right way; it’s about creating a comfortable environment for exploration and self-discovery. Whether the subject is fitness, communication, or cultural norms, Sara’s approach normalizes asking questions we often keep to ourselves. Tuning into this podcast means joining a dialogue that prioritizes understanding over judgment, and playfulness over pressure. The result is a collection of episodes that genuinely aim to make conversations about sex-and the experiences themselves-feel more accessible and significantly less intimidating for everyone involved.
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