397: How to work out for better sex and higher testosterone! (naturally) (ft. Mike Bledsoe)

397: How to work out for better sex and higher testosterone! (naturally) (ft. Mike Bledsoe)

Author: Melanie Curtin January 23, 2026 Duration: 1:36:18

“The gym can be a very scary place.”

Ever been intimidated by the idea of working out -- and in particular, lifting weights? Then you're in very good company. Fortunately, as fitness expert Mike Bledsoe puts it, "95% of people in the gym are also insecure."

Here we delve right into both the insecurity (and how to overcome it), as well as why Bledsoe, who has trained professional athletes, Navy SEALs, and other fitness experts, prefers to work with beginners.

We talk about how to naturally boost your T levels (easier than you think!), the specific way our physical bodies store our "stuff" (and how to move it), and how to get started if you're not sure what to do first.

We also touch on questions like:

  • Is keto really worth it? (What should you actually pay attention to in nutrition trends?)
  • How do you safely start lifting weights (without injuring yourself), especially if you're over 50?
  • How do you best integrate from deep emotional release work (including psychedelics) in a physical way?
  • What kind of stretches are best?

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • "I started asking, 'Why did I get injured?'
  • “If I’m really fit, then I’ll finally feel loved.”
  • “[My clients] would hide their pain from me.”
  • “If you want to increase your testosterone, squat heavy once a week and get in a cold plunge.”
  • “If you have tightness in your body, you have emotional stuff going on.”
  • “About half of my time spent on my body is stretching … and I don’t get hurt anymore.”
  • “No matter where you’re at, you require mentorship and guidance.”
  • “Pay attention to every single win.”

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
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