Ep 43: Healing Relationships with Compassionate Communication

Ep 43: Healing Relationships with Compassionate Communication

Author: Natalee Facey August 14, 2022 Duration: 1:33:48

I consider myself a life-long learner, so it means a lot when I say that Compassionate Communication or Nonviolent Communication (NVC) has been one of the single most important practices I've learned. As my teacher, Steve Torma, puts it, Compassionate Communication isn't just a tool for communication but a shift in consciousness. 

 

I've referred Compassionate Communication to clients of mine because it becomes a game-changer for ANY conversation or relationship. And today, we have the pleasure of hearing Steve Torma share more about Compassionate Communication and how it can benefit you and your relationships. 



We discuss: 

  • What Compassionate Communication or NVC is and some of its many benefits
  • What violence looks like in conversations (it's not just physical!)
  • How the "Dominator Culture" we're socialized in shows up in our self-talk and relationships 
  • Why men will likely grieve differently from women
  • The patterns/imbalances that may become prevalent in relationships between men and women
  • How Compassionate Communication can help create inner peace, as well as bring empathy and healing to relationships 


 

Steve Torma's Bio: 

Steve (he/him) was born and raised on a family farm in Ashtabula, Ohio, and is a 25-year member of Earthaven Ecovillage. His ancestors are Hungarian and French Canadian.

 

Steve co-founded an intentional community in Ohio in 1980, where he lived until joining Earthaven Ecovillage in 1996. At Earthaven, he co-founded a thriving neighborhood, was president for three years, and has taught Nonviolent Communication for twelve years. In addition to his passion for community, Steve co-managed a natural foods co-op for 10 years, ran his own traveling bookstore business for over 20 years, and now teaches Nonviolent Communication and other relationship and community building skills through The REAL Center, which he co-founded in 2009. 

 

As a lifelong peace, justice, and ecology educator and activist with over 40 years of community living, Steve has sought to integrate personal and social transformation in his own life, in the communities where he lives, and in the larger society. His passion for integral living and thinking has led him to study and experiment with a wide range of spiritualities, psychological systems, and social theories as they relate to creating a more just and sustainable world.

 

Steve has taught Nonviolent Communication for a variety of intentional communities, organizations, and regional gatherings, including Celo Community, The Mountain Retreat Center, Firefly Gathering, Southeast Permaculture Gathering, Organic Growers School, Kinnection Campout, LovEvolution Gathering, Compassion Camp, and many others.

 

Steve's Website: http://therealcenter.org/

Seve's Email: steve@therealcenter.org




 

 

The Resources We Reference:

 

If you're curious as to what support might look like for you on your journey, here are some next steps to explore:


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3. Book an Emotional Release Session to identify where emotions are being stored in the body and to release them using gentle techniques that are a part of your body's blueprint. Sessions are a paced, meditative experience, with the results being quite profound. You can receive support with any emotions you're struggling with, including, releasing fears and anxiety, releasing grief, creating a more loving connection with the body, increasing forgiveness and self-forgiveness, etc. 

 

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Navigating the path toward another pregnancy after a loss or trauma is a deeply personal and often isolating experience. Preparing For Pregnancy After Loss offers a compassionate space for this unique journey, hosted by Natalee Facey. As a mother to two angel babies herself, as well as a Resilience Coach and Birth Doula, Natalee brings both professional insight and profound personal understanding to each conversation. This podcast gently addresses the complex layers-emotional, physical, and mental-that accompany family planning after experiences like infertility, traumatic birth, or infant loss. Episodes weave together practical guidance on health and fitness with essential discussions on inner healing and emotional resilience. You’ll hear honest dialogues, strategies for rebuilding hope, and reflections on transforming grief into a source of strength. It’s more than just an educational resource; it’s about finding a supportive voice that acknowledges the fear and courage that coexist when considering pregnancy again. Through this podcast, Natalee aims to foster a sense of community and grounded preparation, helping you reconnect with your own body and spirit on your own terms.
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