EP 265: Nothing Changed & Everything Changed - A mom interview

EP 265: Nothing Changed & Everything Changed - A mom interview

Author: Robyn Gobbel May 19, 2026 Duration: 1:01:53
A single mom who adopted boy-girl twins through foster care shares about her slow, almost invisible journey from survival mode to genuinely delighting in her now-13-year-old kids. Nothing shifted in one big moment. Yet somehow, everything changed. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the shift from "I have to fix this right now" to "I can just be with you in this" is the thing that changes everything — for your kids and for youHow letting go of performing shame (in school meetings, with p...

Robyn Gobbel, an internationally recognized expert in children's mental health, hosts The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}. This podcast serves as a compassionate guide for parents raising children whose nervous systems are vulnerable due to past trauma, toxic stress, neuroimmune disorders, or sensory processing differences. Each episode is dedicated to decoding the confusing and often overwhelming behaviors that can leave caregivers feeling isolated and unsure. Robyn translates complex neuroscience and attachment theory into practical, relatable insights, moving beyond simple behavioral tips to address the root causes of family stress. You'll find a sense of community and understanding here, a place where the struggle is acknowledged without judgment. The conversations in this podcast offer more than strategies; they provide a framework for building safety and connection, helping to shift your perspective from "what's wrong with my child" to "what happened to my child." It’s a resource for anyone exhausted by conventional advice that hasn't worked, emphasizing that you are not alone on this journey. Through stories, expert interviews, and Robyn's own grounded wisdom, the podcast fosters resilience and hope, empowering you to create a family life grounded in co-regulation and mutual understanding.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 100

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Podcast Episodes
EP 227: Nothing Works! Are you burned out on tools? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:43
Part of why you keep listening to this podcast is for parenting tools and strategies, right?? So, what do we do when it feels like nothing is working?! What’s really going on when parenting tools feel useless and you wan…
EP 226: The Power of Delight in Parenting Kids with BBBs [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 35:39
I know- sometimes it feels impossible to feel delight toward your child. I get it! BUT! If you can find even micro-moments of delight, it can be very powerful for both you and your child. In this episode, you'll learn: H…
EP 225: How to Stay Curious When Behavior Makes No Sense [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 32:42
When your child’s behavior leaves you feeling confused, frustrated, or even hopeless, staying curious might be the last thing on your mind. But curiosity is actually SO COOL! It’s both a parenting strategy AND a nervous…
EP 224: Is Behavior Change the Goal? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:07
When you're dealing with whining, hitting, defiance, back talk…well, of course you want it to stop. But what if behavior change isn’t actually the place to start? Not for long-term behavior change, at least. In this epis…
EP 223: What a Trigger REALLY Is [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 40:45
Have you ever freaked out at your child and then later thought, “Where did that come from?” Yup, that’s being triggered! In this episode, we’ll unpack the neuroscience behind why we get triggered, what memory processing…
Ep. 222: Lying, Stealing, Regression & Baby Talk [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 41:00
Why do kids sometimes - or a lot of the time! - suddenly act much younger…or sneakier?! In this episode, we use Dr. Bruce Perry’s concept of state-dependent functioning to reframe some of the baffling behaviors as signs…
Ep. 221: A Brain-Based Way to Understand Baffling Behavior [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 31:52
Could you use a short refresher about what I mean when I say your child’s "owl brain flew away"? Or do yoRu know someone who is willing to listen to a short explanation of how you’re approaching your child’s baffling beh…
EP 220: Mini Pep-Talk for When You Feel Like You’re Failing [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 20:39
If you’ve clicked on this episode because you’re feeling like you're failing—at parenting, at keeping it together, at helping your child—I'm really glad you’re here. Because first, I want you to know this: you’re not fai…
Ep 219: 20 Non-Therapy Therapeutic Interventions [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 51:33
If your kid refuses therapy, what other options are there? Or maybe they don’t refuse therapy, but you’d still like to increase the therapeutic support for your child and family. Here are 20 different non-therapy therape…
Ep 218: Questions to ask a Potential Therapist [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 55:27
Have you ever wondered what types of questions you should ask a new therapist to assess how well they understand behaviors through the lens of the nervous system? No need to take notes during this episode, I created down…