EP 265: Nothing Changed & Everything Changed - A mom interview

EP 265: Nothing Changed & Everything Changed - A mom interview

Author: Robyn Gobbel May 19, 2026 Duration: 1:01:53
A single mom who adopted boy-girl twins through foster care shares about her slow, almost invisible journey from survival mode to genuinely delighting in her now-13-year-old kids. Nothing shifted in one big moment. Yet somehow, everything changed. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the shift from "I have to fix this right now" to "I can just be with you in this" is the thing that changes everything — for your kids and for youHow letting go of performing shame (in school meetings, with p...

Robyn Gobbel, an internationally recognized expert in children's mental health, hosts The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}. This podcast serves as a compassionate guide for parents raising children whose nervous systems are vulnerable due to past trauma, toxic stress, neuroimmune disorders, or sensory processing differences. Each episode is dedicated to decoding the confusing and often overwhelming behaviors that can leave caregivers feeling isolated and unsure. Robyn translates complex neuroscience and attachment theory into practical, relatable insights, moving beyond simple behavioral tips to address the root causes of family stress. You'll find a sense of community and understanding here, a place where the struggle is acknowledged without judgment. The conversations in this podcast offer more than strategies; they provide a framework for building safety and connection, helping to shift your perspective from "what's wrong with my child" to "what happened to my child." It’s a resource for anyone exhausted by conventional advice that hasn't worked, emphasizing that you are not alone on this journey. Through stories, expert interviews, and Robyn's own grounded wisdom, the podcast fosters resilience and hope, empowering you to create a family life grounded in co-regulation and mutual understanding.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 100

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Podcast Episodes
Ep. 217: Co-Regulating? Or Masking? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 34:43
Kids with vulnerable nervous systems need more co-regulation than other kids their age and yes it’s exhausting. Did you know it’s possible to be GOOD exhausted and not just BAD exhausted?!?! It’s you’re chronically exhau…
Ep. 216: "On Purpose" Behavior [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 40:09
Have you ever wondered how those behaviors that feel 'on purpose' fit into this nervous system approach? They feel so intentional! Like there is so much Owl-brain thought involved. But they certainly aren't behaviors of…
Ep. 215: The #1 Ingredient of Self Regulation [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 49:00
Monitoring and modifying are the two essential elements of regulation. ~ Dr. Dan Siegel When we really understand what makes up the skill of self-regulation, we can be more intentional about helping our kids develop thos…
EP 214: Helping Kids with Medical Trauma with Rose LaPiere [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 52:05
Medical trauma can feel confusing because in many circumstances, we are seeking out the very medical interventions that our kids experience as traumatic. Trauma is in the eye of the beholder. Some kids experience trauma…
Ep. 213: Resentment & Parenting [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:43
Resentment. We’ve all felt it. Very little about this parenting journey has gone according to plan. We’ve done the hard work- the never-ending work actually - of rewiring everything we thought we knew about behavior, wha…
Ep. 212: Are We Just Rewarding Bad Behavior? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 47:52
One of the harder things to navigate when shifting to a nervous system lens on behavior is the feeling that a lot of the strategies seem like they are rewarding bad behavior. Strategies that invite regulation, connection…
Ep. 211: Hard? Too Hard? For PARENTS!!! [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 30:19
We talk a lot about hard very too hard for your kids (thanks Amanda Diekman for that hard vs. too hard language!). But have you considered applying that concept to yourself? This is intensive parenting! Far beyond when p…
Ep 210: Sabotage and Being Set Up [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:08
It’s very common to feel like our kids are either intentionally sabotaging good things or that they are purposefully setting us up to be mad or disappointed or to have to say no. You aren’t imagining this phenomenon! All…
Ep. 209: No One is Coming to Save Us [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:59
It took me a looooooong time to really truly believe and understand that- no one is coming to save me. I had to do the hard work to take responsibility for my own triggers, my own nervous system, my own change. This only…