EP 265: Nothing Changed & Everything Changed - A mom interview

EP 265: Nothing Changed & Everything Changed - A mom interview

Author: Robyn Gobbel May 19, 2026 Duration: 1:01:53
A single mom who adopted boy-girl twins through foster care shares about her slow, almost invisible journey from survival mode to genuinely delighting in her now-13-year-old kids. Nothing shifted in one big moment. Yet somehow, everything changed. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the shift from "I have to fix this right now" to "I can just be with you in this" is the thing that changes everything — for your kids and for youHow letting go of performing shame (in school meetings, with p...

Robyn Gobbel, an internationally recognized expert in children's mental health, hosts The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}. This podcast serves as a compassionate guide for parents raising children whose nervous systems are vulnerable due to past trauma, toxic stress, neuroimmune disorders, or sensory processing differences. Each episode is dedicated to decoding the confusing and often overwhelming behaviors that can leave caregivers feeling isolated and unsure. Robyn translates complex neuroscience and attachment theory into practical, relatable insights, moving beyond simple behavioral tips to address the root causes of family stress. You'll find a sense of community and understanding here, a place where the struggle is acknowledged without judgment. The conversations in this podcast offer more than strategies; they provide a framework for building safety and connection, helping to shift your perspective from "what's wrong with my child" to "what happened to my child." It’s a resource for anyone exhausted by conventional advice that hasn't worked, emphasizing that you are not alone on this journey. Through stories, expert interviews, and Robyn's own grounded wisdom, the podcast fosters resilience and hope, empowering you to create a family life grounded in co-regulation and mutual understanding.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 100

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Podcast Episodes
Ep. 208: Bravely Being With Grief with Rose LaPiere [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 53:22
Rose LaPiere LPC, RPT-S, and ACS invites into a space of safety and connection so we can make room for grief. Rose brings her own experiences of grief to her work as a play therapist (and co-leader in Robyn’s immersive t…
Ep. 207: Is It Time to Raise the Bar? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 41:50
You’ve lowered stress and demands. You’ve reframed your child’s behavior as a response from their autonomic nervous system. You’ve worked hard to help your child’s stress response system rest and begin to heal Now what?…
Ep. 206: Punishment Free Parenting with Jon Fogel [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:10:52
Jon Fogel is a dad who combined his passion for parenting, neuroscience, and impacting the world to create a viral social media account (@wholeparent) and then to publish his book, Punishment-Free Parenting. Jon and I ge…
Ep. 205: Scaffolding Felt Safety [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:00:39
How do we help kids feel safe when they are safe? How do we help them take in the safety that exists in their life when their life experiences seem to have convinced them that nothing is safe. Scaffolding. Yes, we can sc…
Ep. 204: The Way of Play with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 59:00
Play makes kids stronger. It’s necessary for their physical and emotional development, and even their academic development. Play helps kids work through and make sense of hard things. A few months ago I went searching fo…
REPLAY: Living with Someone Chronically Dysregulated [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 31:02
Do you live with someone or love someone who is chronically dysregulated? This episode isn’t an episode that is going to tell you what to do. This is an episode of commiseration. Of “I see you.” It is exhausting to live…
REPLAY: Silliness as a Sign of Dysregulation [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 48:11
Have you ever felt confused by your child’s silly behavior? It seems like they are having fun, but it doesn’t feel good at all? In this episode, you’ll learn How to tell the difference between fun-silly and dysregulated-…
REPLAY: You Aren't Doing it Wrong [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:31
You aren’t parenting wrong. It’s not your fault. Asking “What am I doing wrong?” is the wrong question! Here’s what be curious about instead. In this episode, you’ll learn: That you’re not doing it wrong (well, not any m…
REPLAY: Grief in Parenting [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:32
Robyn explores the grief in parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems In this episode, you’ll learn: The relationship between trauma and griefWhy it's important to make space for grief in our kids and in ourselvesTh…
REPLAY: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:07
How do we not flip our lids when our kids are going bananas? It's HARD. Because dysregulation is quite literally contagious!! And if we flip our lids too then it's usually pretty hard to deescalate the situation. Offerin…