Losing All Discretion - TS17

Losing All Discretion - TS17

Author: Tori and Soul, Same-Sex Female Bisexual Couple in the Swinging Lifestyle September 15, 2019 Duration: 39:11

Your discovery of the lifestyle likely happened at the intersection of someone in the relationship being curious enough, and brave enough to bring up the topic of exploring sexuality in a new way. They now feel comfortable enough to share their desires. The tricky part is that as individuals, we will also have a list of desires that are as unique as we are. And, if the adage, "opposites attract", is true in your relationships, how easily does this further complicate things? You love your partner, so how do you navigate their interests when what they want may not be of interest to you? How do you support your partner with something that is on the top of their list when it isn't even on your list? In this episode Tori & Soul are having another CarTalk. This time it's about promiscuity and drinking and fantasies, and having your partner support it all. Here goes another emotional discussion, when one person is, clearly, more highly charged, and the other is more rational. We wanted to share this discussion so that others could hear a demonstration of how partners can support one another, in their lifestyle journey, as they open up and uncovering what truly pleases them. Listen and discover how to embrace the understanding that, "what one person does, really has nothing to do the the other person" - which is the opposite of what many people are taught to believe about relationships. Supporting your partner (while having established agreements about behaviours in place) is more likely to bring you closer to each other, rather than weakening your connection - the opposite to what people often fear.

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At the heart of Torrid Souls is a real, ongoing conversation between two people building a life together on their own terms. Hosts Tori and Soul are a married same-sex female bisexual couple, partners for over ten years who now navigate the complexities and joys of the swinging lifestyle not just as lovers, but as parents. This isn't a theoretical discussion; it's grounded in the daily reality of maintaining a passionate, committed relationship while exploring ethical non-monogamy. Each episode feels like pulling up a chair to their kitchen table, listening as they dissect the social adventures, the inevitable misunderstandings, and the profound connections that can form outside traditional boundaries. They talk about the intersection of sexuality and fitness, how personal health impacts relationships, and the cultural nuances of living authentically in a society that often expects a simpler story. The podcast resonates deeply with couples who are secure in their love but curious about how opening their relationship might actually strengthen their bond. Whether you're actively exploring alternative lifestyles or just seeking a more honest dialogue about long-term partnership, Tori and Soul offer a rare, unfiltered perspective. Their journey provides a specific, human lens on topics that are often shrouded in secrecy or sensationalism, making every conversation in this podcast both relatable and genuinely enlightening.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 33

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Podcast Episodes
Boobs & Big Blue at Oasis - TS11 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 48:17
Toronto, with its 5 lifestyle clubs in the area, is the sex club capital of North America. In this episode we chose Oasis AquaLounge as the place to be. The perfect place to go to chill out or be sexy, or both, and on th…
Booty Call Blues: Handling Disappointment - TS10 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 45:12
Truth be told, this episode was a challenge for us. It was a challenge to record and a challenge to edit. It's about disappointment. Admittedly, not a happy topic, and disappointment will happen. It's never easy. How do…
A Hard Man is Good to Find - TS9 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:14
What's next in the adventures of Tori and Soul? Another booty call attempt, that's what! In our last episode, we had our first-ever booty call and it was a success (albeit with someone we already know). Well, in this epi…
Booty Call Therapy - TS8 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 59:06
More in-the-moment epiphanies and ah-ha moments. In this episode, it's, literally, the morning after our first-ever booty call! We are still in bed and the pillow talk gets cerebral. And once again, we get pleasantly sur…
Dating Penises - TS7 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 42:48
Penises. Penes. Palos. Mangueros. Pollas. Oh My! Up until this point in our journey into CNM (Consensual Non-Monogamy) we met penis-endowed playmates at clubs, resorts, parties or events. We made our decisions primarily,…
2018's Hottest Adventures. Naughty19 Here We Come! - TS6 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 55:45
HAPPY NEW YEAR! Join us as we recap our most favourite sexy times of 2018 and tell you all about the naughtiness that we'll be up to in 2019. In this episode we turn on the party lights, have a few drinks (and probably w…
Tangled Christmas Lights - TS5 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 50:59
Choosing to swing means that you have to get clear about what you want. Who are you? What kind of experience do you desire? What are you afraid of? It's a sorting process once you've decided to open up to including other…
Naughty Virgins - NIN2018 - TS4 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 58:01
Naughty in N'awlins: if you haven't gone yet, you'll want to. This was our first time at NIN, the largest lifestyle convention, for couples, in the world! Over 1,000 couples, a full takeover of the French Quarter's bigge…
It's Raining Men, Hallelujah! - TS3 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 50:20
Just to recap about us, we recently got married, and during the many months of wedding prep we were so exhausted, and with not a lot of time to be sexy. We flippantly said, that once we could, we would go on a RAMPAGE! W…
Heeey... You're Sexy! - TS2 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:41
Consensual non-monogamy is so much more than just being open to including others who are outside of your primary relationship. It's not just about doing it with others. It's more about opening your own mind about who you…