Learning to Be Okay When Someone Isn’t Okay With You

Learning to Be Okay When Someone Isn’t Okay With You

Author: Jessica Hottle | Christian Life Coach, Spiritual Growth Mentor, Christian Mental Health Coach, Christian Counseling May 13, 2026 Duration: 13:42

For many of us, discomfort doesn’t come from conflict itself; it comes from the belief that someone else’s disappointment must mean something is wrong with us. When approval has felt like safety for most of your life, even small moments of tension can trigger anxiety, overthinking, and the urge to fix or perform.

This episode takes an honest look at why being okay when someone isn’t okay with you feels so hard, how our nervous system and faith both play a role, and what it means to remain steady, loving, and emotionally grounded without needing everyone to understand or agree with you. 

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The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.


Ever feel like your own mind is a knot of worries, doubts, and endless mental chatter? Untangle Your Thoughts is a space where faith meets the practical realities of mental and emotional well-being. Hosted by Jessica Hottle, a Christian life coach and mental health coach, these conversations move beyond surface-level platitudes to explore the tangible intersection of spiritual life and psychological health. You’ll find episodes that delve into navigating negative thought patterns, learning to truly trust in God during uncertainty, and discerning how to hear from God in the clutter of daily life. This podcast approaches emotional healing not as a separate endeavor from spiritual growth, but as a deeply connected journey. Jessica brings her background in Christian counseling and spiritual mentorship to offer grounded perspectives and actionable tips. It’s for anyone who longs for a more peaceful, grounded inner life rooted in a authentic relationship with God. Each episode aims to provide thoughtful reflection and practical tools, creating a resource for those seeking to integrate their faith with honest self-improvement and mental clarity. Tune in for a compassionate and insightful dialogue that honors both your spiritual path and your emotional reality.
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