Why You Don’t Have to Fix Everyone (and Why That’s a Trauma Pattern)

Why You Don’t Have to Fix Everyone (and Why That’s a Trauma Pattern)

Author: Jessica Hottle | Christian Life Coach, Spiritual Growth Mentor, Christian Mental Health Coach, Christian Counseling June 25, 2025 Duration: 13:11
You want to help. It feels noble - maybe even necessary. You’re the one who jumps in, figures it out, and holds it all together. And when someone you love is struggling? You can feel the pull in your chest, like you’re supposed to do something. But here’s the hard truth: sometimes our fixing isn’t actually compassion, it’s control dressed up like care. We’re not just trying to help… we’re trying to keep the peace, avoid the fallout, and prove we’re worthy of being needed. But that’s a weight your soul was never meant to carry.

Rooting for you,
Jessica

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Resources:

What Is the Fawn Response? People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response
How to Set Boundaries as a Christian

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The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Ever feel like your own mind is a knot of worries, doubts, and endless mental chatter? Untangle Your Thoughts is a space where faith meets the practical realities of mental and emotional well-being. Hosted by Jessica Hottle, a Christian life coach and mental health coach, these conversations move beyond surface-level platitudes to explore the tangible intersection of spiritual life and psychological health. You’ll find episodes that delve into navigating negative thought patterns, learning to truly trust in God during uncertainty, and discerning how to hear from God in the clutter of daily life. This podcast approaches emotional healing not as a separate endeavor from spiritual growth, but as a deeply connected journey. Jessica brings her background in Christian counseling and spiritual mentorship to offer grounded perspectives and actionable tips. It’s for anyone who longs for a more peaceful, grounded inner life rooted in a authentic relationship with God. Each episode aims to provide thoughtful reflection and practical tools, creating a resource for those seeking to integrate their faith with honest self-improvement and mental clarity. Tune in for a compassionate and insightful dialogue that honors both your spiritual path and your emotional reality.
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