424: GuyTalk: 'This is where you get your master’s degree in men’s work.'

424: GuyTalk: 'This is where you get your master’s degree in men’s work.'

Author: Melanie Curtin August 1, 2026 Duration: 1:21:11

“I was nervous as hell.”

So shares one of the men in this episode about how he felt stepping onto the land of our in-person retreat. In another's words, “I went into a panic because I’m having flashbacks of summer camp.”

What's it really like to do live men's work?

The truth is, most men that come to live retreats are intimidated in one way or another. Rates of bullying are astronomically high, and you don't always know what to expect. As another put it, “There’s a shared understanding of the brutality between men.” And, “When I was a boy, there was never any spiritual or deep, emotional holding by men in my life.”

But you can write -- and experience -- a different story. You can have a new experience of brotherhood ... and what that makes possible may be something you've never even considered.

In one man's words, “The dynamic within my whole family has changed.” Another said, “There’s now a level of connection now with my wife that I can’t even describe.”

If you'e ever felt like you didn't fit in as a kid, or you're just plain curious about how our retreat has impacted other men, listen on. There can be kind and loving experiences of masculine love.

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Come to the retreat!

As of this recording, we have 4 spots left! It's over Labor Day weekend, Sept 3-7th in Northern California (about 2 hours north of SF). We work hard to keep it financially accessible, and payment plans are available.

Or as one man said, “If you’re thinking about going, you’re already there.”

https://evolutionary.men/retreat/

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Work with us

Want to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.

To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • "I wanted to be vulnerable and open, but I didn’t know how, and I wasn’t sure I could.”
  • “I was deathly afraid to become a terrible father.”
  • “I cried tears of joy for the first time in my life.”
  • “I realized — through all the work I’ve been doing, therapy, self-reflection, etc. — how much love I have for myself (finally).”
  • “If we’re gonna talk about this trauma, we might as well do it in the hot tub!”
  • “There was racism even within my own church.”
  • “I can accept other men’s unconditional love, and it helped me know how to provide unconditional love to other men.”
  • “I came into the first retreat a very tough nut to crack.”
  • “There is hope with change.”
  • “You’ll make friends.”
  • “Come for the food; stay for the healing.”
  • “You WILL experience a transformation.”
  • “Just get there.”

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

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